Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Are You With The Right Partner?

During an open forum, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The speaker then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the speaker.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their individual or unique characteristics . Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's individual or unique characteristics , instead of being cute, it'll drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: It's not pre-determined who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

ICE WAVES ! Absolutely Beautiful...


Icebergs in the Antarctic area sometimes have stripes, formed by
layers of snow that react to different conditions.

Blue stripes are often created when a crevice in the ice sheet
fills up with melt water and freezes so quickly that no bubbles form.

When an iceberg falls into the sea, a layer of salty seawater can
freeze to the underside. If this is rich in algae, it can form a
green stripe.

Brown, black and yellow lines are caused by sediment, picked up
when the ice sheet grinds downhill towards the sea.
These pictures are available because 2008 has been the coldest winter.

... Is this amazing??

Antarctica Frozen Wave Pixs - Nature is amazing!
The water froze the instant the wave broke through the ice.
That's what it is like in Antarctica where it is the
coldest weather in decades.
Water freezes the instant it comes in contact with the air.
The temperature of the water is already some degrees below freezing.
Just look at how the wave froze in mid-air!!!

Having the Internet means that we get to see something that we never imagined!

Tuesday, November 3, 2009


Somebody once told me that "Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong. It is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there. You'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define "RIGHT PERSON" for you...and don't rush things because God is preparing somebody for you.

You can never be perfect...the person you love can never be perfect...but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But no relationship is complete without God...that's why we have marriage. It's a bond not only between you and your loved one but also with God.

Our relationships fail not because he/she is not the right person...it's because we expected too much and we decided on our own. Let God do the work, you may call it waiting time. But while you are waiting ...pray. Let God guide you always. He knows better, He knows best.

Love is not what you think it is...sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance and we forgot to learn the meaning of TRUE LOVE. Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, and unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in his life. Others are saying that love is immortal and can never be taken away from us. We say this phrase, "You are the most wonderful gift from God I have ever received" but after a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say, "You are the biggest mistake I've ever made for my entire life!!!" Now, how do you say and spell the word L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it?

Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whisper right into our ears. Most of the time, this love promises like, "Forever, till death do us part", etc. would end up, "Never!" and "We should part ways, I'm no longer happy with you! My love for you is dead!" Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero degree, "He/She isn't the right one. I should probably wait for the right one to come." But the big question anyone could not answer is "Is he/she the right one? or When is the right time?" That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and right time to commit? Big YES is the answer!

Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can find love if you insist that you are already into it. Try to really understand your real feelings, to know who really you are, and what you really want in a relationship. You're right, there is no such thing as a "perfect relationship", but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damage you have made. If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last don't go deeper into it. You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life.

It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the attention. Then you will find that you have made the right decision if all by yourself. More frequently than not, we all act hypocritical for some reasons.

We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, it's just pity. We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstood; it's just that we're too much dependent to them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave, no one would accept our past and us. We are mistaken, it's just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy or beg. It is real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.

"Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want; it is the realization of how much you already have."

Thursday, October 8, 2009

An Inspiring Love Story

This sure puts life in perspective...
Enjoy your moments...That is all we have...


Her name is Katie Kirkpatrick, 21 year old. Next to her is her fiance, Nick 23. This picture was taken prior to their wedding January 11th, 2005. Katie has terminal cancer and spends hour in chemotherapy. Here, Nick awaits while she finishes one of the sessions...

Even in pain and dealing with her organs shutting down, with the help of morphine, Katie took care of every single part of the wedding planning. Her dress had to be adjusted several times due to Katie's constant weight loss.

An expected guest was her oxygen tank. Katie had to use it during the ceremony and reception. The other couple in this picture is Nick's parents, very emotional with the wedding and ofcourse to see their son marrying the girl he fell in love when he was adolescent.

Katie, in a wheelchair listening to her husband and friends singing to her.

In the middle of the party, Katie had to rest for a bit and catch her breath. The pain does not allow her to stand for a long period of time.

Katie died 5 days after her wedding. To see a fragile woman dress as bride with a beautiful smile makes you think...happiness is always there within reach, no matter how long it lasts...Lets enjoy life and don't live a complicated life. Life is too short.

Work as if it was your first day.
Forgive as soon as possible.
Love without boundaries.
Laugh without control
and never stop smiling...

We have to pray for those suffering from cancer. We all have close to our heart.
Keep this going.
Prayers are always answered.

Attitudes are contagious,
Is yours worth catching?

Saturday, July 25, 2009


The other night, I was at home watching the movie "Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince" with my 18 year old cousin Nemie, who, at her age, has become curious about the ways of love. It was cute to see her blushing in certain scenes that involved Harry and his love interest Ginny, and laugh out loud at the foibles of Ron and Lavender.

I couldn't help but smile and remember how it was for me and many of my friends back in the 90's- who was like Harry, Ron, Hermione,, Ginny and Lavender or even Luna Lovegood?

Of all Harry Potter films, this one is the best because it presents the human dimension of the young wizards. In this movie, as in real life, the young wizards discover there is no magic formula to help them navigate their teen years. The intertwining stories of romance, jealousy, crushes, unrequited love and romantic rivalries might also feel familiar to anyone who has been a teenager.

Actress Emma Watsons, who plays Hermione Granger, says, "For me, this film feels more like a romantic comedy than the others, in the sense that we get to see them coping with first love, jealousy, insecurity and all the usual things involved in dating."
I found many teachable moments that opened discussions on love, affection, jealousy and loyalty with my cousin...

Saturday, June 20, 2009


Never heard of possibility of prediction of earth quakes or tsunami’s as below
Except the possibility of changes in gravitational pulls from celestial bodies

“Hello there. I just wanted to let you know that please stay away from the beaches all around in the month of July. There is a prediction that there will be another tsunami hitting on July 22nd. It is also when there will be sun eclipse. Predicted that it is going to be really bad and countries like Malaysia (Sabah & Sarawak), Singapore, Maldives, Australia, Mauritius, Si Lanka, India, Indonesia, Philippines are going to be badly hit. Please try and stay away from the beaches in July. Better to be safe than sorry. Please pass the word around.”

Monday, June 15, 2009

Classical Music

According to Edgar Cayce’ prediction “sound is the medicine for the 21st century”. His prediction is proven correct; one of the amazing findings of the 21st century is classical music.

There are increasing numbers of experts that testify the surprising benefits of classical music:

1. February 2005 (Journal of Advance nursing):

Found that older adults with sleep problems who listened for about 45 minutes to soft music at bedtime reported 35% improvement in their sleep.

Classical music is proven therapeutic to a lot of illness such as old age related conditions (like alzheimer), Brain injury, acute pain including mothers in labor, and physical disabilities. That is why in US classical music is played in psychiatric hospitals and rehabilitation centers.

One hospital study found that heart patients received the same anxiety benefits from listening to 30 minutes classical music as they did from taking drug valium.

2. 2004 (London, England)

British Transport police play classical music to underground stations in some of the areas most dangerous neighborhoods. After 6 months of playing the music,

Robberies were cut by 33% , Staff assaults decreased by 25%, vandalism went down to 37%

3. 2001 (West Palm beach, Florida)

“It’s not practical to have a cop sitting there all day long”

“So what do we you do?”

“How do you change the scope of the neighborhood ”

Cops installed a CD player and speakers on an abandoned building in a crime- ridden neighborhood. After playing the music for 24 hours a day for about 3 months, Shootings, theft, loiterers and drug deal decreased.

4. Some supermarkets and stores in the US piped in music in their place. According to them classical music tend to put shoppers at ease, relax and look at the items for sale.

5. In the office classical music is used to reduce mood disturbance and job burnout.

If just playing classical music can resolve issues in our country why not use them. First world countries are already using Classical music to help resolve their country’s issues why not use the same formula to help our country?